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The Impact of Separation Anxiety on an Infant's Sleep and How to Help Improve It

The early months and years of a child's life are filled with important developmental milestones, including the formation of attachments and the onset of separation anxiety. While separation anxiety is a normal part of infant development, it can significantly impact their sleep patterns. In this blog, we will explore the impact of separation anxiety on an infant's sleep and provide practical strategies to help parents and caregivers improve their little one's sleep during this transitional phase.


Separation anxiety typically emerges around 6 to 8 months of age when infants become aware of their attachment to primary caregivers. It is a healthy response as it signifies a strong bond and the development of trust. However, it can also lead to distress and sleep disturbances. Infants with separation anxiety may resist sleep, wake more frequently during the night, and have difficulty self-settling. It's important for parents and caregivers to recognise the signs of separation anxiety to better understand and address its impact on sleep.


Separation anxiety can disrupt an infant's sleep patterns in several ways. Infants may become more dependent on their caregivers for soothing and have difficulty settling down to sleep independently. They may wake more frequently during the night, seeking reassurance and comfort from their parents. Additionally, separation anxiety can trigger night awakenings and cause difficulty returning to sleep without parental presence. These disruptions can lead to overtiredness, further exacerbating sleep challenges and affecting the overall well-being of both the infant and the parents.

Strategies to Improve Infant Sleep during Separation Anxiety


1. Consistency and Routine: Establish a consistent bedtime routine that helps signal to your infant that it is time to sleep. This routine may include activities like a warm bath, gentle massage, lullabies, and quiet time. Consistency and predictability can create a sense of security and promote better sleep.


2. Encourage Independent Sleep: Encourage your infant to fall asleep independently by placing them in their cot whilst they are still awake. This practice allows them to learn self-settling skills, which can be beneficial when they wake during the night. It’s important to note that if they are very upset following this then you can use your chosen settling method to support them to sleep but the idea is to gradually move away from their dependency on you to fall asleep.

3. Transitional Objects: Once your child is over 12 months of age you can introduce a comfort object, such as a favorite blanket or stuffed animal, to provide a sense of familiarity and comfort when separated from parents. These objects can offer reassurance and serve as a source of comfort during sleep times.

4. Gradual Separation: Gradually expose your infant to short periods of separation during the day to help them develop confidence and security. Playing games such as peekaboo with younger babies or hide and seek with older toddlers can really help your little one to understand that when you leave, you will return again. Another idea is to leave them with a trusted caregiver or family member, starting with very brief intervals, gradually increasing the duration. This practice can reduce anxiety around separation and, in turn, improve sleep.

5. Reassurance and Comfort: Respond promptly and consistently to your infant's cries during the night. Offer gentle reassurance, soothing touch, and comforting words to let them know you are there for them. Avoid prolonged separation during sleep regressions caused by separation anxiety.

6. Create a Soothing Sleep Environment: Establish a sleep environment that promotes relaxation. Ensure the room is dark, quiet, and at a comfortable temperature. Consider using white noise machines to provide a soothing background sound that masks any sudden noises.

Separation anxiety is a natural developmental stage in infants. It’s a temporary phase that gradually diminishes as your infant grows and develops secure attachments. With time, patience, and a loving, supportive environment, you can help your little one navigate through separation anxiety and establish healthy sleep habits.


Separation anxiety can significantly impact an infant's sleep, leading to disruptions and challenges for both the infant and parents. By understanding the nature of separation anxiety, implementing strategies such as consistency, routine, gradual separation, reassurance, and creating a soothing sleep environment, you can help improve your infant's sleep during this developmental phase. With time, patience, and a nurturing approach, you and your little one can navigate through separation anxiety and enjoy restful nights of sleep.


Lastly and most importantly, take care of yourself as well. Parenting through separation anxiety and sleep challenges can be exhausting and emotionally draining. Make sure to prioritise self-care, seek support from your partner, family, or friends, and remember that you are doing your best. As your infant's primary caregiver, your well-being is essential for providing the care and support your child needs so please get in touch if sleep issues persist or if you need additional guidance.




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